“Co-Regulation: on the days that you can’t, find someone who IS and spend time wiht them”
Yea… I F*cked Up…
Ah, crisis... what an opportunity for growth.
Come on a little storytime adventure with me.
Yesterday I was on a little road trip up to Savannah, one of my favorite places.
A massive car accident in central Georiga has everyone stuck in a 2-hour traffic jam where people were out of their cars playing catch.
So they started redirecting traffic to the next nearest exit.
Google had her own plans and my common sense had more trust in Google despite my spidey senses tingling.
So when Google said right a turn down this "dirt" road for a little cut around that literally zero other cars had taken I said "let's go".... Mistake #1.
After catching air and bottoming out Frank (my Ford Escape) a few times my spidey senses were tingling they were having a stroke.
Cut through this mud patch? Sure? How deep is that small river? Eh can't be that deep...
"anything is possible with the power of love..."
Welp we put that to the test, I am a scientist of course.
On mile 5 of following this journey, a white-knuckled journey with weeds hanging from the side of Frank, mud flying, I see a turn coming and it was at that point I knew... not only was I f*ck but I was in the middle of a Georgia swamp on a "road" that wasn't for street cars like Frank, it was for tractors...
So I head into this turn with a full head of steam... and surprise I bury Frank up to his headlights. (pics in story)
Blessed with service I see that I'm yes indeed as I am In the middle of f*cking no where.
Like if nowhere got lost that's where I was.
I was 3 miles direct walk from the next GRAVEL road. Or a 5 mile walk back the way I came...
The insurance company gave me the ol "atta boy" but you're screwed and this is a rescue mission that your full coverage doesn't cover... which to be honest yeah, you're right, this one is on me.
I'm freaking out, a thunderstorm has come in and now a small river has formed.
CRISIS MODE ACTIVATED so I did what I always do when I'm freaking out... I call Nick.
Nick is my big brother, a Taurus. The most solid human being on the planet and my touch tree... I call with the classic...
"hey, I F*cked up..."
(⭐️CONT. FROM SOCIAL⭐️)
Nick who’s been blessed with me as his little brother has gotten this call… too many times.
I “cooly” inform him that “I’m drowning in a fcking swamp in the middle of f*cking nowhere. I’m about to die, it’s destroying my credit score and now I have highblood pressure on top of getting bald spot, I think I have an autoimmune condition… Tell Phoenix I love her I’m dying….”
Calm as a cucumber…
Sweet solid Nick, has played this game with me too many times.
He asks if I’m safe, and asks me what’s actually going on.
I send him the picture of where I’m currently at. I show him the pin I dropped and that I’m dead to rights out here waiting to be killed by the swamp people.
But he’s steady, knows me. Knows that when I start to catastrophize the situation that I don’t need to be heard, witnessed or validated I NEED LOGIC.
( I’m a logically driven person, so I regulate with a plan)
My logic-driven people don’t process in the moment of crisis we thrive on execution.
So we build out a plan of action, 5 minutes later I no longer am telling him I’m worried about the new bald spot that’s forming on my head or my declining credit score.
I’m as relaxed as I can be, but I’m in a state of homeostasis that would allow me to actually take action in a direction that makes sense.
I aligned my action plan, and dove into my todo list.
2 hours later the choice had been made to abandon the car in the woods and pack up everything I had to get out.
The safest route that wouldn’t let the woods swallow me up was to follow the path forward.
Again we aligned and I “borrowed” his logic and reason to help me take action.
That is why coregulation is so powerful. This is why having people who are in your corner for greatness is so frogging important.
Co-regulation is the reason we created Wired for Worthy, even if you just spend time around regulated people you’ll start to feel its mirroring effects of it. You’ll hear the playful connection, and in groups, you’re able to mirror the people that match your values.
To finish story time, I walked 3 miles to the nearest road where a State Trooper Officer Steven picked up a soaking wet, muddy neuroscientist with 3 bags a long board and graphic T-shirt. Gave a new meaning to the walk of shame.
Officer Steven had a friend Mike, who by all means was a good ol boy. At the ripe age of 61 Mike had the confidence of a man who had lived life to the fullest and promised me he in his 4x4 would go get frank out.
We drove back for an hour to where Frank was and the entire time Mike is asking me “you didn’t think to stop and turn around?”
Mike who’s a gentleman, properly called me the dumbest smart person he’s ever met but also thanked me for taking him “muddin” on a Monday.
He looked at Frank and goes… “yup, stuck. “
Then did an expert turn, told me to get out and hook up the chains to frank and sit in the driver seat of Frank and “enjoy” the ride.
30 seconds later Frank was free with out a scratch on him.
Little muddy but he likes being ridden hard anyway.
We drove the 5 miles out the way we came and Mike did a full side of the road check of Frank. No leaks, no flats.
Paid the man and we went on our way.
When you ask for good people you’ll be surprised who drops into your life.
I’m over the moon grateful for Nick, Steven and my good ol boy Mike.
Today I woke up with a smile on face and feeling blessed to have people in my life that CHOOSE to deal with my crazy.